Thought We had It Sorted out…


Week Five (Study 5)

In the Women of Impact Bible Study (WOI BS), week five or study five is usually conducted as a combined study, that is, all the BS groups come together and it’s usually the Ladies Ministry patron who presides over the BS. It’s a BS cum fun time since she poses some questions based on the BS just for fun, at times with rewards for the best responses.

Sunday 27th March was to be the day for the combined BS. I had performed my duty of sending reminder mails and text messages, about the day and timing, to all persons concerned, the BS moms, the BS attendees (daughters) and leaders.

I had looked forward to the day, and even hinted to my daughters what goes on so they could be set for it. I urged them to be punctual following study four’s incident, and we agreed that they should respect time and be early.

Come Sunday, I had to be in Church quite early to ensure all was set for the day. Thankfully, my friend AnnaMarie, was also early and assisted with the preparations.

It was soon time for the BS with the leaders already there, the other moms and their daughters. The first thing that happens at this session is to identify moms and their daughters to check the attendance and all…When it came for my turn, the disappointment that befell me is unspeakable…honestly I felt like crying out of it…How now? I thought we had agreed time keeping was to be observed….unfortunately, my one ever punctual daughter who is so reliable had informed me earlier that she had been called on duty…being in the medical field that is expected and she was absent with apology…The rest turned up so much later when the damage had already been done on me….There I was, was the first to get there together with AnnaMarie, and there were my daughters getting there the last!!! Talk of challenges….if disappointment isn’t made of this then what is it? Being a leader at whatever capacity is no easy…in this case ’mothering’ ladies in BS, and it so happens almost all are older than me….Any way, I have to exercise calmness in all these, and pray that my daughters come to realize how bad it is disrespecting peoples’ time….The time keeper I am….you can only imagine how I felt….



Time Keeping…So Difficult??


A few weeks ago, we started the Women of Impact (WOI) Bible study (BS). The Bible study started very well. Being a BS mother of seven and also coordinating the BS at large it’s been quite a Challenge since then, with so much follow ups and communication to do with the rest of the moms, the WOI Ladies Ministry leaders not forgetting keeping in touch with my daughters over weekdays.

The second and third studies went well. It was on the Sunday when we had the 3rd Study that my daughters and I agreed we have a sort of bonding and sharing session on the Sunday that was to follow, while on the 4th study. These sessions are very much encouraged by our leaders since enhancement of relationship among the ladies is the essence of the BS. What happens is that you set a day when you can have ample of time together other than the rushed BS hour. I organized it all, I even communicated over the week before last Sunday to remind and confirm to them that the plans were still on. I told them at what time we were to meet and the place we were to be at. I was so blessed to have gotten a very nice room at Church which used to be an office for us to meet at other than the usual open air BS under the tents where there are quite a number of BS groups.

The day came that was last Sunday, March 20th. I was all set. I love being on time, I’m never late and I hate lateness. I got to Church very early, long before the meeting time so that I could get the meeting place ready, despite the weather. Mind you I had slept very late having gotten home way past midnight after having been to help a friend grade and pack flowers for export…. I was to serve us breakfast during that session, which was well taken care of. With everything ready what was left to do was to wait for my daughters to come for our mother-daughter, sister-sister time…..

The minutes passed on, no one showing up before time, a few minutes past the set meeting time, one of my daughters showed up who is also the group’s time keeper. We then waited for the others as time passed by….two of them sent text messages that they couldn’t make it…this sending of messages on the day of the function when already it was time for the meeting was annoying enough….We waited on for the others to show up. It wasn’t until it was too late that they came. Time was so much gone that we couldn’t have our bonding session. It was too late when they came that we rushed through the BS lesson of the day!

Honestly, I was so disappointed, even upset with that happening. I really tried hard to keep my calm…Luckily for me, as soon as we were done with the BS, a young girl who’s my friend called me to tell me she was around and would like us to meet before Church service began. Last time I was with her, she had so admired my bracelet, and I promised to get one for her. I had it with me, so I gave it to her. She was so excited! She made my day as we chat on lots of stuff….she’s great company! She really cheered me up with her unending stories and questions….kids are very interesting….


Fret Not, Relax

You wake up with a start to find it is way past your wake up time, you overslept! You should have been up an hour earlier. As usual, you had set the wake-up time alert on but somehow you did not hear it go or you are not the clock alerts type, your mind conditions itself on wake up time but today? What happened? You prepare in rush, even skipping some of your morning grooming routine. You dash out of the house, half way to the main gate, you instinctively feel for the wallet or the phone. It’s not there! You are so upset with yourself you can’t help but grumble under your breath. All the while you are thinking ‘I’m late’. You are even concocting your explanations for your action or inaction to those who matter, whom you are answerable to.

It is common to be off course some days, you get late. You get late for work, late for oh, that so important meeting, appointment etc.. The situation suggests worry, be upset, feel troubled.

All the worry and trouble you let flow within you because of such mishaps is not worth anything, it won’t change the situation. Fact remains, you are already late .No amount of worry will rewind time.

The best thing to do is relax, find composure within self, and maintain your calm.

‘What? How do I retain calmness, while my whole life depends on this? (that which you are late for)’ Really? Your life does not depend on that. Your life depends on life itself, that your heart is still beating, and you are still breathing, that comes from He who is the giver of life, the ultimate life’s sustainer! The rest are just channels of supporting it, making it more comfortable, more like what you think life should be and He is the source of that too.

When you are making up those explanations, rushing through everything, you are bound to get yourself into more trouble and may be even incur losses, a headache, frustration, a smashed glass just to mention a few.

No matter the circumstances, fret not, invite peace within and peace will be with you.

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